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Chapter 1462: Those who are close to vermilion are red, those who are close to ink are black! (Ten t

To many ordinary people, devious tactics seem to be a high-ranking idiom, which seems to be a very professional war term. After ordinary people see these two words, they will naturally substitute it in modern warfare. In their daily life, when they encounter difficulties or encounter unexpected events, even if they think of the detour tactics, but the inertial thinking makes these people choose to give up the detour tactics in the end, which makes these people suffer a lot. Big loss. ｜Top｜Point｜Fiction

Here, what you need to understand is that although devious tactics are a professional term in warfare, it does not mean that devious tactics cannot be used in your daily life.

In your daily life, as long as you can use devious tactics to achieve your goals, you can use them as much as you want, and you don’t have to care about whether the name you came up with is a high, big, or noble name.

Monkey is now using devious tactics to persuade Xu Chang. The hatred between Xu Chang and Monkey is really deep. If Monkey directly stepped forward and asked Xu Chang to cooperate with them, the final result would definitely be chicken and egg. Therefore, Monkey chose a detour tactics.

"Brother Xuchang, sit down first, let's discuss what to do when we suddenly meet on the island? Believe in this question, brother Xuchang, you are also very concerned, right?

After all, whoever meets other people suddenly on a strange island full of crisis, most people will have some subconscious self-protection actions, and once this self-protection action goes too far, the result can be imagined Got it.

There will definitely be a very intense collision between our two sides.On such a strange island, our two sides had a fierce collision, for both of us.It won't be any good news, brother Xuchang, don't you think? "The monkey began to reason and tell the truth.

"Hmm..." Xu Chang lowered his head and began to think about the monkey's words. Soon, Xu Chang raised his head.He said with some hesitation in his tone: "Then what should we do?"

At this time, Xu Chang's voice was not as blunt as it was at the beginning, obviously.Houzi's devious tactics succeeded, of course, because what Houzi said was indeed very reasonable, and Xu Chang couldn't help but disagree.

What if Xu Chang and Leng Xin didn't discuss what to do when they encountered each other suddenly.Or what safe move both sides take.To avoid misunderstandings when everyone met, Xu Chang believed that when he and Leng Xin met suddenly, there would definitely be conflicts.

Brothers Xu Chang, Xu Jie, and Leng Xin have too much hatred. Just imagine, if you met a guy who had a big hatred in a strange deep forest, what kind of thoughts would you have in your heart at that time? .

Believe this time.Nine levels of people here will be wondering if this enemy of yours wants to sneak attack you.And once you have such an idea in your mind, what kind of action you will have next is predictable...

As long as you are not a fool, you will understand the meaning of this sentence. Therefore, when you suddenly meet your enemy in a strange place, you will definitely turn to you immediately The enemy launched an attack. (The enmity here must be the enmity of life and death.)

If Leng Xin didn't have the 'Desert Eagle' on him, Xu Chang wouldn't care if he met him suddenly in the wild. On the contrary, Xu Chang would be very happy to accept this 'big gift' at that time. However, Now Leng Xin has a 'Desert Eagle' in his hand, so when Xu Chang really wants to fight Leng Xin to the death, it is really unknown what the result will be.

However, Xu Chang believes that the possibility of both dying together is even greater.Therefore, after the monkey asked this question, Xu Chang just thought for less than five seconds, and sat down obediently on the ground, ready to discuss the solution to this problem with the monkey and the others.

Seeing that Xu Chang finally sat down, the monkey shouted "yes!" in his heart. As long as Xu Chang chooses to sit down now, the monkey has the confidence to persuade Xu Chang to obey his words and work together with him cooperate.

"Boss, come sit here." The monkey gave Leng Xin the opposite of Xu Chang. In this case, even if Xu Chang and Leng Xin had a quarrel during the conversation, there was a certain distance between the two of them, so, The possibility of fighting directly is very small, and at that time, the monkey will have enough time to resolve it.

It can be said that from this we can see that the monkey's ability is actually very strong, but unfortunately, the vanity made the monkey join the black-shit club, although now the monkey has understood the black-shit- ——The dark nature of Hui is ready to leave Hei————— Hui, but the heart of the monkey has changed a lot.

Vanity is a common psychological state of human beings, no matter ancient or modern, Chinese or foreign, regardless of men, women, old or young, poor or lowly, rich or honored.

Vanity is a kind of distorted self-esteem, an overexpression of self-esteem, a character defect that pursues ostentation, and an abnormal social emotional and psychological state that people show in order to gain honor and attract general attention.

Vanity is manifested in behavior, mainly blind comparisons, overjoyed achievements, overvaluation of other people's evaluations, too strong desire for self-expression, strong jealousy, etc.

Manifestations of vanity: 1. People with strong vanity are relatively dependent, not independent enough, and think they are "deficient" in ability.

2. People with strong vanity have stronger self-esteem than ordinary people, but because of dependence, they lack self-confidence, so outwardly they appear to have too much self-esteem, are too sensitive to certain things, care about others' evaluation of themselves, and internally manifest themselves Inferiority, don't believe that you can achieve your wishes through hard work, and hope to get what you want in a quick way.

3. Because the development of this kind of dependence is caused by the incomplete and incorrect education of the parents, often the parents also have vanity and dependence without knowing it. Generally, this kind of parents pay attention to the development of children's morality.But I don't know how to cultivate children's abilities, or my abilities are not very strong.

Vanity is manifested in behavior, mainly blind comparisons.Great success, too much emphasis on other people's evaluation, too strong desire for self-expression, strong jealousy, etc.

Desire for vanity; deluded self-importance about one's appearance, knowledge, role, possessions, or achievements; desirability for praise or admiration

Generally manifested in two ways: 1. Unscrupulous, try to make yourself stronger than others, after being stronger, gain happiness and satisfaction in the gap with others;

2. When limited by conditions.When you can't make yourself stronger than others, you will feel torture and pain in the gap with others;

People with strong vanity actually live a very tiring life.Because he and she live between extreme self-confidence and extreme low self-esteem, there is no middle ground.

"Death to save face and suffer", this is a traditional old saying, which largely summarizes the psychology and behavior of this kind of people.

As someone said: "Vanity is hardly a vice. But all vices revolve around vanity. They are nothing but means to satisfy vanity."

Many people have vanity, men, women, parents, at some point, will have different vanity.

Men's vanity: The protagonist of the skit "You-Talk" is bragging in order to show that he is better than others and capable.He said he had a way to buy a train ticket, but someone else entrusted him with it.In order to prove that I can, I had to queue up at night to buy tickets, which made me feel embarrassed.This is typical vanity, and the pain and trouble it brings is self-inflicted.

Women's vanity: Many female compatriots have a monthly income of only 2000-3000 yuan, but in order to have "face" in front of others, she would rather live frugally and save more than half a year's income to buy a Louis Vuitton in a high-end specialty store. Vuitton's satchel, she can carry this satchel every day to squeeze the bus or walk to and from work to save money on the car.

In order to appear noble in front of others, some women go beyond their own ability to buy high-end clothing, cosmetics, jewelry and other luxury goods. , gnaw——Parents, what did they lose?Freedom, independence and lasting joy of mind.

Parental vanity: Many adults use their children as tools. In order to realize their unrealized dreams, they ask their children to save face for their parents. Therefore, they blindly demand and force their children, and do not respect them.

As everyone knows, this is also hurting the child's soul.

Among the representatives of these three types of vanity, the vanity of women is the strongest and the most harmful.

Anyone with a normal mind will have vanity more or less, but men's vanity is more manifested in the pursuit of career, power and pursuit of a better life. Therefore, men's vanity is usually Will be praised for being ambitious and responsible.

At the same time, men's vanity most of the time pursues non-material and spiritual things, which are manifested as indulging in satisfying the kind of domination of the world, self-respect, and being a leader. The joy-feeling that comes.

But women are different. The vanity of most women is usually very realistic and material. They are satisfied with the pleasures they can enjoy in real life, and they are satisfied with the spiritual pleasures that arise after comparing with their neighbors, relatives and friends. Therefore, they will delicately feel the changes in the level of living environment and the level of material enjoyment.

At the same time, women's vanity most of the time pursues material things, so most vanity-minded women will have three characteristics.

[-]. The psychology of comparison is relatively heavy.

Women with strong vanity always compare themselves consciously or unconsciously with women who have better living conditions, better working conditions, and better family conditions than themselves. Moreover, this kind of people has a characteristic that they habitually compare themselves Comparing your shortcomings with the strengths of others, the result can be imagined.

For this reason, they will feel that their lives are very aggrieved, that others will always enjoy a happy life while they will always live in dire straits, and what they see is that others will always be so happy and they will always be depressed.

Comparing everything will inevitably lead to psychological imbalance, but it is difficult to suppress the unhappiness when seeing others live more comfortably than oneself, even if one's annual salary is already high, even if one's house is already big.But as long as there is someone who surpasses herself among the people she knows, she will have a very strong mentality that she is inferior to others.

Second, jealousy is relatively strong.

Women with super vanity are usually accompanied by very strong jealousy, whether in life or work.As long as you see colleagues who live a more comfortable life than you or have a brighter future than yourself in your career, you will naturally secrete strong acid substances physically, and you will also inexplicably produce strong jealousy mentally.

For this reason, they sometimes imagine the superiority of the other party as the shameful benefits obtained by using illegal means, and imagine themselves as a model of being noble and sticking to the moral bottom line.

A woman who routinely disdains the career successes and family happiness of her friends usually puts on a superficial level of disdain when she doesn't get what she craves.In fact, it is the fire of jealousy that cannot be extinguished in her heart, if.This jealousy is so big that it cannot be controlled, and extreme things are very likely to happen.

[-]. Lack of proper happiness.

In the "Shan Hai Jing? Hainei Nan Jing", there has long been a record of "Ba snake eats an elephant, and its bones emerge at the age of three." and "A snake swallows an elephant, how big is it?" in the Warring States Chu? Qu Yuan's "Heavenly Questions" records .It vividly portrays and describes "the lack of human heart and the snake swallowing the elephant".

therefore.But people with strong vanity will not easily be satisfied with the status quo. Their eyes usually do not look back at the people behind them who are less happy than themselves, nor look around at those people who live similarly to themselves. Their eyes Always focus on the elite group who are more comfortable and comfortable than themselves, so it is difficult to feel the happiness of contentment in life.

To overcome vanity, you must distinguish the boundaries between self-esteem and vanity, and correctly understand your own strengths and weaknesses; you must be an honest person; you must cultivate your own realistic qualities.

The girl's vanity drives her to look in the mirror often. Some people really want to be respected and appreciated by others.But they often can't get what they want. An important reason is that they have fallen into the misunderstanding of vanity.

Vanity is a superficial pursuit of glory and brilliance.

A person with a lot of vanity.Often regard fame and fortune as the internal motivation to control their own actions, and always care about other people's evaluation of themselves.Once others have a little intention of denying themselves, I think I have lost my so-called self-esteem and can't bear it.

Vanity refers to superficial brilliance, and vanity is the psychology of pursuing superficial brilliance.

Vanity is an excessive pursuit of honor, a deformed reflection of moral responsibility in personal psychology, a bad psychological quality, and its essence is the emotional reflection of egoism.

Everyone is more or less vain. Men mostly pursue their own reputation, status, money, cars, etc., while women pursue their own clothes, appearance, husband, and house. Especially with the rapid development of society and economy, people's needs It is not only for survival, but also for food and clothing. It can no longer be like what Lao Tzu said in "Choices": "Rare goods make people rule with the sage, for the stomach and not for the eyes, so go to the other and take this."

Admiration for vanity can lead to the loss of morality, and it can lead to the abyss of sin-evil.

People who are overly vain always start from certain personal motives and pursue a temporary, superficial, and false effect, and even resort to deceit, fraud, and deceit, and completely lose the ability to evaluate their behavior from the social value of the behavior , the purpose of its behavior is only to gain honor and attract general attention, and to be admired and envied by the people around it.

In "Quanzi.In Gu Xi, Geng Dingxiang talked about a story of "A Peacock Loves Tail": A male peacock's long tail is shining with golden and green colors, which is difficult for any painter to describe. It is jealous by nature, and it chases and pecks people in gorgeous clothes when it sees them.

Peacocks cherish their tails very much. When they live in the mountains, they always choose a place to rest their tails before settling down.One day it rained and wet its tail, and the bird catcher was about to come, but it still looked back at its beautiful long tail cherishingly, refused to fly away, and was finally caught.

The story is a metaphor of people sacrificing their lives and freedom for meaningless ideals. If the pursuit of ordinary worthless things develops into seemingly good wishes, vanity is an excessive expression of self-esteem. In this sense In other words, vanity is a sad and even immoral social emotion that often leads people to act irrationally immature and anti-social.

A common vanity today refers to the abnormal pursuit of fame, which will make the society form a wind of impractical grandiosity.Deprives the individual of the basis of his life, and thus falls into intrigue, because the vanity of one man cannot coexist with the vanity of another.Only hurt each other.There are countless such stories in ancient and modern times.

Vanity seems to have a strong sense of honor, but it is actually a reaction to moral honor.

In fact, we often see such a situation in life: buying a house is not for living, but for showing to others.When choosing a house, you don’t do what you can, just do what is suitable, but blindly pursue the big and decent, and if you don’t have enough financial strength, you have to take a large loan to buy a big house that is envied by others.Become a house slave.

The purpose of buying a car is not to use it as a means of transportation, but to show off and earn face.

It's common to see some overdressed people these days.The makeup lines, colors and styles on their faces and bodies are very mismatched. In order to follow fashion and to highlight their own uniqueness, they do not consider the limitations of income, occupation and personal conditions.Blindly follow the wind.I spent a lot of wronged money but I can't dress up well, which makes others not appreciate it, and I am not happy.

Vanity is the most harmful thing. If you want to live a happy and relaxed life, you must recognize its essence from the heart, and try to get rid of it and stay away from it.

Vanity, from a psychological point of view, is a character defect that pursues vanity.

Vanity is a common psychological state of human beings, and everyone has self-esteem.We all hope to be recognized by the society, which is a normal psychological need.But people with strong vanity do not use real efforts, but use abnormal means such as lying and speculation to hunt for fame.

So, how do we make adjustments to our vanity?

1. First you have to understand vanity

There are many manifestations of vanity: overestimating one's own ability and level; showing off one's strengths and achievements everywhere, liking to hear praise, hating criticism; often bragging about one's powerful relatives and friends in front of outsiders; Do your best to flatter and flatter; pretend to understand if you don't understand, slap your face swollen to pretend to be fat, like to play tricks;

The family is poor but spends a lot of money, flaunting wealth to follow the fashion; always competitive, feeling better than others, pretentious; blaming others for the mistakes in life, never looking for their own reasons; having shortcomings, but also looking for various excuses to try to cover up ; be jealous of other people's talents, gossip, gossip; and so on.

2. Then you have to realize the dangers of vanity

People with strong vanity will unconsciously infiltrate selfishness, hypocrisy, fraud and other factors in their thoughts, which are incompatible with virtues such as modesty, prudence, being aboveboard, and not trying to make a name for themselves.The vain man does good for the sake of praise, and is complacent about praise and success, even to the point of deceit.

They try to cover up their shortcomings, they don't like it and they are not good at learning from each other's strengths.Middle school students are in the mature period of physiology and psychology. This kind of vanity mentality is very harmful to middle school students who are eager to make progress and are growing up.

A vain person is strong on the outside but does not dare to reveal his heart, which brings a heavy psychological burden on himself.Vanity can only be satisfied temporarily in reality, and long-term vanity will lead to the breeding of unhealthy emotional factors.

3. Again you have to figure out what is vanity and self-esteem

With physical development, adolescents' self-esteem is also developed and significantly enhanced.As people mature physically and psychologically, people's social awareness and self-awareness gradually improve, and individual socialization begins.

With the development of self-esteem, vanity began to intervene in the emotional field of people.Vanity is actually a twisted form of self-esteem.People with strong self-esteem are more concerned about their reputation and prestige.

To do good deeds, to feel happy is a manifestation of honor; to cherish honor and take care of face is a normal requirement to maintain self-esteem; and to do good deeds for praise, even at the expense of deceit, this is the manifestation of vanity.

Self-esteem is gained in modest, aggressive, genuine effort.People with self-respect do not cover up their shortcomings, but learn from each other's strengths; they do not elevate themselves through powerful relatives and friends or put others down; Use deep criticism and self-criticism to improve yourself.

4. Get rid of the herd

Herd behavior has both positive and negative sides.For a good fashion in the society, it is necessary to vigorously promote it, so that people feel an invisible pressure, and thus follow the crowd.If some unhealthy trends and unhealthy tendencies in the society are allowed to spread, it will also create a kind of pressure and make some weak-willed people follow the trend.Vanity can be said to be the deterioration and expansion brought about by the negative effects of herd behavior.For example, it is popular in society to eat, drink and talk about ostentation.The housing is spacious, and the entertainment is high-end.People who are backward in their way of life disregard their own objective reality in order to avoid being ridiculed by others.Blindly and arbitrarily designed, swollen face to pretend to be fat, causing life and money, and heavy debts, this is a completely self-deceiving approach.Therefore, we must face the reality with a clear mind and seek truth from facts.Deal with problems from your own reality, and get rid of the negative effects of herd mentality.

5. Also, you have to adjust your inner needs at any time

Needs are the reflection of physiological and social requirements in the human brain.It is the basic driving force of human activities.Human beings have physiological needs related to food, rest, sleep, sex, etc. to maintain the organism and continue the race, have social needs such as communication, labor, morality, beauty, and knowledge, and have material needs for air, water, clothing, books, etc. There are spiritual needs for cognition, creation and communication.

A person's life is spent in the constant satisfaction of needs.After all, people cannot be equated with animals.

Marx pointed out: "Hunger is always hunger. But the hunger that is satisfied by eating cooked meat with a knife and fork is not the same as the hunger that is satisfied by gnawing raw meat with hands, nails and teeth."

In a certain period or under certain conditions, some needs are reasonable, and some needs are unreasonable. For a middle school student, the requirement for normal nutrition is reasonable, but it is unreasonable to disregard the need for actual ostentation.

It is reasonable to need clean and tidy clothing that fits students’ status, but it is unreasonable to wear heavy makeup and wear gold and silver in order to follow the fashion and pay too much attention to appearance.

Learn to be content with yourself.Think more about what you get to achieve your own psychological balance.

6. Do the above points well.Finally, you have to correct your values ​​and outlook on life

The realization of self-worth cannot be divorced from the needs of social reality. The understanding of self-worth must be based on a sense of social responsibility, and a correct understanding of the connotation of power, status, and honor and the true meaning of personality and self-esteem.

At the middle school stage, students begin to learn in order to pursue certain value goals, and learning becomes a conscious, active and lasting activity. However, with the establishment of the socialist market economic system, new changes have taken place in people's ideas, coupled with certain social Affected by these negative factors, many students' attitudes towards life, future, and life are excessively pursuing external vanity, talking about ostentation, ostentation, eating and drinking, and comparison is a symbol of fashion, otherwise they will not be able to keep up with the situation. And being ridiculed, this provides the soil for the growth of vanity.

Only by focusing on reality, combining one's ideals with the future of the country and the nation, and overcoming difficulties and obstacles on the way forward through hard work, can one realize one's lofty ideals and aspirations.

It is by no means a bad thing for people to have vanity. To a certain extent, it is precisely because of the indestructible vanity of human beings that it promotes and promotes the continuous progress of mankind, and a woman's proper vanity can also become a career for herself and her husband. The original driving force for progress and pursuit of a better life.

In fact, a person's sense of happiness comes from his peaceful state of mind, from his not-too-greedy pursuit, from his proper vanity, to obtain spiritual and material improvement according to his ability, don't live in a villa Don’t think your house is small, don’t drive a Bentley and think your car is old. Always think about how to help the disadvantaged, and you will have more and more happiness.

Therefore, adjust your mentality, don't over-pursue super high goals, learn to be content and find the source of constant happiness. Only in this way can you feel the joy of life and feel the sense of happiness.

The monkey just didn't see the harm of vanity clearly, and let go of the vanity in his heart, so he would go astray as a black-squeamy-society.

The monkey just saw the majesty of Hei-Shi-hui, and the fear of ordinary people about Hei-shi-hui, so he thought that joining Hei-shi-hui would definitely be his favorite. A good choice, no one knows, the monkey's thoughts made him completely fall into a desperate situation.

Yes, the boss of the Hei-shi-hui is very powerful. After seeing the members of the Hei-shi-hui, ordinary people will be very scared and avoid them. , and would come forward with a smile on his face to curry favor with the black--astringent--members. This kind of thing looks really imposing on the surface, but in fact, under the surface of this scenery, it is extremely dirty. of.

Why are those black-squeaky-society bosses surrounded by a large group of people when they go in and out.Even when you go to eat, you bring a large group of people with you, and you are having fun.He even directly called a large group of younger brothers to go with him. This is not the boss of the black-serious-club who is arrogant and loyal.

Perhaps, there is a little bit of it in it, but most of them are the black-squeamy-will-boss-bigs who want to rely on this gang of younger brothers to protect themselves.

Hei-shi-hui was full of killings, and an old-big came to power.Then there must be another old-adult who has evaporated from the world, so the black-astringent-hui old-da looks very majestic.However, in fact, he was always walking on the verge of death.

It is also because of this that those black-squeaky bosses are going in and out, or going to eat.while having fun.There will be a large group of men waiting for them.Because, only with a large group of subordinates, the boss of the black-squeamy-society would dare to go out to eat, have fun, or do other things.

Also, when there is danger, the subordinates of this group are the best protection umbrella for Hei-shi-huibo-da.Or a scapegoat.

If only the boss of the black-squeezed society didn't have such a large group of subordinates around him when he went in and out.Then this black-astringent-will-age-big life will definitely not last long.Those his enemies, the gangsters who want to come to power, and government agencies will attack him in the shortest possible time.

Monkey didn't see this reality clearly before, so after seeing the majesty and superficial beauty of Hei-se-hui, he directly joined in without hesitation. However, after so many years of working in Hei-se-hui , Now the monkey has finally seen through the dark nature of Hei-shi-hui, and is going to quit Hei-shi-hui when he goes back this time.

However, it is a pity that it is too late for the monkey to look back now. The monkey's whole body, from head to toe, from the fine hair on the surface of the human body to the cells in the human mouth, has been dyed black by the big dye vat of the black society.

Now even if the monkey wanted to transform, it was too late.This can be seen from the behavior of the monkey to remind Leng Xin to let the people behind be the bait when he was chased by the sand tiger shark, the monkey's heart is completely dark!

Houzi showed his kindness to Xu Chang very affectionately, but Xu Chang was still unmoved. In Xu Chang's simple heart, he would not choose to believe anyone who would hook up with Hei Shi. He doesn't believe there is anything that can get out of the mud without being stained. It's something in the story, and it doesn't exist in the real society. Therefore, even if the monkey is smiling at Xu Chang, Xu Chang's heart Vigilance is still strong.

Compared with the verse of "out of mud but not stained", Xu Chang believes more in the saying "close to vermilion is red, close to ink is black".

Out of silt but not stained, it is often used to describe lotus.Silt: sludge at the bottom of the water; dyed: stained.Grows in silt without being polluted by it.Source: Song Zhou Dunyi's "Ai Lian Shuo": "I love the lotus when it comes out of the mud but not stained, and it is clean and not demonized."

The ancients generally used things to express their feelings in writing. The same sentence has two meanings, one is a metaphor, and the other is an expression.Similarly, "Come out of the mud but not stained, wash the lotus without demons" also has a second layer of expressive meaning.

It is a metaphor that the author himself has the noble character of "coming out of the mud but not stained, washing the lotus without being demon".

In fact, what he said was: official = field-dark-dark, to maintain one's noble character in the official field is as difficult as a lotus flower emerging from mud.This is also a summary of his experience as an official, because he doesn't want to be in the same boat.

And "Zhuo Qinglian is not a demon" is just a good wish of the author.How can you not get your shoes wet when you often walk by the river?Therefore, among a hundred flowers, a single lotus can do something, which is very precious.

This is also the author's sigh, because it is impossible for him to be alone in the general environment, except to escape and stay away.Or as conscientiously as he guards his own aspirations.

The ancients said: those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black.Teachers and parents often use this ancient teaching to educate us.

"Closer to Zhu is red, and close to ink is black" comes from "Teng Wen Gong Zhang Ju Xia" in "Mencius".Mencius’ original intention was to use the enlightenment of “close to the vermilion to be red, and close to the ink to be black” to explain the importance of the influence of the surrounding environment on people, thus explaining that the monarch of a political country should pay attention to the examination and selection of the cronies around him.

The original meaning of Mencius’s words is still in politics. He used the inspiration of “the one who is close to Zhu to be red, and the one who is close to ink to be black” to illustrate the importance of the influence of the surrounding environment on people, thus explaining that the monarch of a political country should pay attention to the cronies around him. examination and selection.

Because, if the monarch is surrounded by good people, then the monarch will also do good deeds with everyone.On the contrary, if there are many bad people around the monarch, it will be difficult for the monarch to be a good person.

The inspiration here is not profound. In fact, it is the meaning of the "Da Dai Li Ji Zeng Zizhiyan" that "in the fluffy hemp, you can't stand upright; white sand is in the mud, and it is black with it".

Isn't the so-called "Mother of Meng in the past, choose a place next door" and "Mother of Meng moved three times" just to find a place with a better surrounding environment for the education and growth of children?Mencius has been influenced by this aspect since he was a child, and he has experienced it personally, so what he said is very reasonable and vivid.

We are interested not only in his political intentions but also in the examples he cites.This is actually a question of learning a foreign language.

I thought that learning a foreign language was only fashionable in the era of "going abroad for a series of connections", but I didn't expect Mencius to have discussed this aspect as early as 2000 years ago.Moreover, regardless of whether the examples mentioned by Mencius are real or hypothetical, it is certain that there is such a phenomenon in life, that is, dignitaries let their children learn "foreign languages".

(Of course we know that the so-called "foreign" refers to the concept at that time, which is actually a dialect of Chinese.)

What we study and affirm here is the problem of the language environment he emphasized. As Mencius said in this chapter, the language environment is very important in the learning of language orality. This is something that anyone who has learned a foreign language has a deep understanding of. of.

Mencius's analysis is specific and vivid. It is very friendly to read. We should really include this paragraph of his exposition in the introductory textbooks for learning foreign languages.

But is the one who is close to vermilion really red, and the one who is close to ink really black?This may only represent one kind of person, that is, people with particularly poor self-control ability.

If a person is really "close to the vermilion, he will be red, and close to the ink, he will be black", then he has failed in life, has no brains, no position, and is easily influenced by others.

The difference between internal and external factors, from a philosophical point of view, is that internal factors determine external factors.

But in reality, some people really can't stand the temptation, so there is the saying that those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black. Everyone's moral quality and personal cultivation are different. Zhuo Qinglian is not a demon or is close to Zhu Zhechi, and close to Mo Zhehei depends on one's own sense of right and wrong.

"Get out of the silt without staining" and "get close to the vermilion will be red, and close to the ink will be black" are relative concepts.Perhaps for the current society, the latter seems more realistic, while the former is only a minority.So, can the silt not be stained?

Very simple, the answer is not unique, you need to judge according to your self-control ability.As far as learning is concerned, even if you are surrounded by a group of cynical and unprogressive friends, as long as you want to learn, who can hinder you?On the contrary, if you are really "black when you are close to ink", then I really feel sad for you, because you are too failed, have no brains, no position, and are easily influenced by others.

Everyone's moral quality is different, and personal cultivation is also different. Whether it is "out of mud but not stained" or "close to ink is black" depends on your sense of right and wrong!

(To be continued..)

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