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Chapter 1050 Engagement (1)

Engagement, also known as marriage contract, according to the folk customs of our country, there is usually an engagement ceremony before marriage: signing a marriage letter, exchanging gifts, or setting up a matchmaker, etc.However, according to the current laws of our country, engagement is not a necessary procedure before marriage, and a marriage without engagement will not lose the validity of the marriage.

The function of the engagement ceremony is to confirm the marriage relationship between the two parties in a ceremonial way, and to obtain social recognition and supervision.Once a man and a woman are officially engaged, both men and women must take certain moral responsibilities for this relationship, and the termination of the marriage contract is no longer a casual matter.

If there is a marriage change, it must be negotiated by both parties or mediated by an outsider.If negotiation and mediation fail, the annulment of the marriage contract must generally be announced publicly on a certain occasion, or a statement published in the newspaper, otherwise it will be regarded as an immoral act.In the event of an economic dispute over gift giving, if negotiation and mediation fail, the court may "go to court."

There are also some small etiquette and customs in the engagement ceremony in the city.Due to the high degree of autonomous marriage between a man and a woman, in order to prevent their parents from meeting their betrothed before they announce their engagement plan, when they feel that their relationship will eventually develop into marriage, they arrange a meeting with their parents.

If there is no chance for the parents to meet their fiancé or fiancée because of geographical ties, the two use phone calls, letters or emails to mention their special relationship to family members before announcing their engagement.

The future groom will explain his life plan and family arrangement to the future wife's parents. This kind of conversation is always an important proof of the groom's respect for the bride's parents. It is a etiquette that cannot be ignored. This etiquette is quite Western. .

Engagement is a kind of social ceremony. There is an engagement ceremony to inform the public that the couple is committed and ready to enter the stage of marriage.The traditional engagement ceremony in East Asia is called including Nacai, Nazheng, and Wending, but modern times are simplified to only Nazheng.

Men and women enter into a marriage contract: an agreement before marriage, and a marriage contract between a man and a woman.

In the past, the marriages of Han youths were mostly arranged by their parents. Most of them were betrothed by their parents since they were young.

No marriage with the same surname: that is, men and women with the same surname do not marry each other. It began in the early Western Zhou Dynasty and was left over from the time when the Zhou nationality practiced extramarital marriage.In the Spring and Autumn Period, people had a better understanding that marriages with the same surname would cause deformities and infertility in offspring, but marriages with the same surname still happened from time to time among nobles.

After the Warring States period, the surname was used as the surname. After the Han Dynasty, the surnames were not distinguished, so it was unavoidable for people with the same surname not to marry.Until the Tang Dynasty, same-surname marriage followed the ancient system and was prohibited.In the Song and Yuan Dynasties, there is a Tang law, and the same surname is divorced because of marriage.

In the Ming and Qing Dynasties, the territory was larger and the population was large, and it became a region-based society early on, replacing the original blood-based clan.Therefore, the "Laws of the Ming Dynasty" and "Laws of the Qing Dynasty" are divided into two groups with the same surname and the same clan. On the surface, it is stipulated that intermarriage is prohibited for both of them. In fact, people with the same surname but different clans can also marry.At the end of the Qing Dynasty, the law combined non-marriage of the same surname and non-marriage of relatives, and only prohibited marriage of the same clan.

Before getting engaged, a matchmaker should be invited to the bride's home to propose.When getting engaged, the man will give the woman some property as an "engagement gift", and the woman will also bring a lot of property to the man's family when getting married, which is called "dowry".

Engagement in modern society is legally a contractual act, which is a status contract.This identity contract has several characteristics:

1. The conclusion of the marriage contract cannot be made by proxy, otherwise it will not be legally effective; that is, the marriage contract must be mutually agreed by the man and the woman before it can be established.

2. Only those who have the statutory ability to engage in engagement can engage in engagement.The legal definition of the ability to be engaged is based on the standard of age: the male is 17 years old, and the female is 15 years old.If a marriage contract is concluded in violation of this provision, the marriage contract is not invalid, but the parties or their legal representatives may request the court to revoke it.

Because, for minors under the age of 20, the marriage contract must be approved by the legal representative.

3. The marriage contract shall not be enforced.Although the marriage contract should be observed, it should also comply with the wishes of the parties.If one party fails to perform, it cannot be enforced.

Engagement is also called "wending", which used to be called "Naji" and "Nazheng". Although engagement is not as complicated as marriage, traditional customs still attach great importance to it. Both men and women need to prepare some gifts. The process is as follows:

The groom performs the family sacrifice at home first, and then takes the same car with the matchmaker to the woman's home to marry.After getting out of the car and entering the door, the red envelope can't escape!

Tribute Officer: Commonly known as "Mr. Bao Box", he is responsible for gift giving and appointment.Tribute officials must control the number of people (make up an even number), vehicles (six or twelve), dowry (even numbers and wrap properly in red paper), and six gifts.

Family Sacrifice: Before heading to the woman's house to Nacai, the man will perform the ancestor worship ceremony at home first. At this time, the "hezai cake" or flat cake used by Nacai will be incensed and sacrificed to the ancestors. He will go to a certain place Hired by the family, ask the ancestors to bless this marriage with happiness.

Departure: After the family sacrifice, the tribute officer is responsible for loading all the betrothal gifts into the car, and the groom rides with the matchmaker to the bride's home.

Red envelopes: Before departure, the tribute officer should remind the groom to prepare red envelopes in addition to the number of people, the number of cars, and the betrothal gift.For example, the uncle who came to open the groom's car door, the "press table", and the six accompanying relatives all need to prepare the bride's meeting gift, the bride's new friend who holds the washing water, and the matchmaker gift.

How to make an appointment after a life-long appointment: the so-called "eat rice fragrance, marry a good son-in-law", so there must be rice fragrance cakes in the six rituals.

The meaning of preparing four-color candy: Four-color candy symbolizes the sweetness of newcomers, and the meaning of growing old together.

The bride price not only represents the man's repayment to the woman's parents, and thanks to the woman's family for their hard work in raising the newlywed, but also represents the man's face.Therefore, most of them are willing to buy in a beautiful and decent way, and each dowry gift also contains the symbolic meaning of auspiciousness and perfection.

Dowry gifts are usually divided into simple six-piece gifts or exquisite twelve-piece gifts. The amount of betrothal gifts depends on personal budget. At the same time, it is advisable to ask the matchmaker to ask the woman’s parents for advice and advice, so as to make the best of both worlds.

Male marriage and female marriage officially debut

Bang! The sound of firecrackers sounded, and the man to marry has arrived!On that day, ancestor worship and tea service will be carried out, and the ceremony will not be considered complete until wearing the ring holding hands to the white head.

After the big gift, how does the woman return the gift

Chinese people have always paid attention to "reciprocity". After the man's big gift, the woman will naturally return the gift. You can't let the man go away empty-handed.

Engagement agenda: Our country has been advocating etiquette since ancient times, and the traditional wedding customs are based on Zhou etiquette. There are six rituals, including Nacai, asking for names, Najib, accepting levy, asking for a date, and welcoming in person.

Na Cai: In ancient times, the master of marriage ceremonies pre-selected the daughter, and used geese as a meeting ceremony to make the matchmaker pay tribute to the daughter's father. Today, it is called "marriage proposal".

Ask the name: The man asks the woman's name and date of birth, saying that it is auspicious, and today it is called "combined eight characters"

Najib: If the name is an auspicious omen, a matchmaker will be sent to tell you the gift, which is now called "Xiaoding".

Na Zheng: This ceremony is mainly to send deposits, wedding cakes and various ornaments and sacrifices as gifts for formal engagement and alliance.Today it is called "Dading".

Request period: Commonly known as "sending the day", it is called "begging for the day" when the man appoints a teacher to choose a good day, and asks the matchmaker to ask for the opinion of the woman's family.

Personal welcome: the wedding date is confirmed, the groom rides in a black car, and the welcoming team goes all the way to the bride's house with firecrackers and drums.

It can be seen from the above that the first five of the "six rituals" all belong to the category of engagement.This wedding process has lasted for more than 00 years in our country.

With the progress of the times and the emancipation of people's minds, adult love has replaced the arrangement of parents, and the engagement ceremony has become dispensable and is no longer an indispensable part of marriage.Today's engagement ceremony may be called "the formal meeting of the parents of both parties" more appropriately.

Zhao Chaogang wanted to handle his engagement ceremony like it used to be in ancient times, so that he would value Pingping and Jingjing so much, so that the relatives in Pingping and Jingjing's family would be more satisfied with him, and he would be more satisfied with Pingping and Jingjing. For Jingjing, it was also a rare and beautiful memory.

For women, the most important engagement and wedding ceremony in their life is definitely the most important part of their memories, so for his wife, Zhao Chaogang does not want to wrong them, Zhao Chaogang will give them the most memorable engagement ceremony .

However, the society has improved a lot after all, so Zhao Chaogang still discarded some inappropriate things on the engagement ceremony, otherwise the engagement ceremony would not be a good one, and in that case, it would not be beautiful.

Li Bin and his wife, as well as Liu Mingxin and his wife, are very satisfied with Zhao Chaogang's grand plan to organize the engagement ceremony between himself and Pingping and Jingjing. The more important the daughter is in Zhao Chaogang's heart, in this case, parents like them can feel at ease.

However, because Zhao Chaogang and Li Liping were engaged at the same time, the news of Liu Jingjing's engagement was too sensational. If it really got out, with Liu Jingjing's current status, not only Zhao Chaogang would have a headache, but even Liu Mingxin's family, and Li Bin's family would have a lot of headaches, so this time, at the engagement ceremony in Zhao Chaogang's hometown, Liu Mingxin and other relatives of Li Bin's family were not present, only Li Bin and Liu Mingxin and his wife were present.

Although in this case, Pingping and Jingjing seem to have fewer relatives, but there is no way around it.

What's more, Zhao Chaogang will return to Anxi City to hold an engagement ceremony with Pingping and Jingjing respectively. At that time, all relatives of Pingping and Jingjing will be present, so there will be an explanation.

Of course, Zhao Chaogang had already discussed these matters with his parents. Zhao Qiang and his wife did not object to Zhao Chaogang doing this. Since Pingping and Jingjing followed their son, they deserved these things. (To be continued.)