noffsinger Chapter 1296 Difficulties
Chapter 1296 Difficulties
At the wedding banquet, the bride and groom must also toast to the elderly on both sides, which means the return of the children for their upbringing, the birth of another new family, and the igniting of the incense for the inheritance of the family. It is a good life for the elderly. Therefore, there is a folk saying that "marrying a daughter-in-law and a daughter-in-law is often when the parents are drunk". ?. .
After the bride and groom toasted the elderly at the wedding banquet, they had to go to their relatives and friends to toast. Now Zhao Chaogang, Li Liping, and Liu Jingjing started toasting.
It’s okay to toast at my relatives, everyone is relatives, so it won’t be too embarrassing for Zhao Chaogang and the others, just drink a little wine and feel good. However, at the banquet of those officials, there are also Zhao Chaogang and the others. At the friends' banquet, Zhao Chaogang suffered a 'big disaster'.
These people's toasts were definitely big cups, and the wine that Zhao Chaogang drank was not brought by Zhao Chaogang himself, it was all the wine from their banquet. After a round, Zhao Chaogang drank a full seven or eight catties of wine.
If Zhao Chaogang was not a cultivator now, his body would naturally digest alcohol, Zhao Chaogang would be 100% down now.Fortunately, those officials at the table, and Zhao Chaogang.The friends of Li Liping and Liu Jingjing still knew how to advance and retreat, and did not drink Zhao Chaogang's wine desperately.Therefore, Zhao Chaogang escaped a catastrophe.Otherwise, after these dozens of tables, if everyone offered Zhao Chaogang a few glasses of wine, Zhao Chaogang's body would automatically sober up, and he would only end up drunk on the ground in the end.
Everyone in today's wedding banquet is very satisfied, especially the dishes on the wedding banquet.It also satisfied those who came to the wedding banquet.
The dishes on the wedding banquet are extremely rich, and the taste is extremely good, especially those dishes made of wild animal meat, which makes these people who come to the wedding banquet even more attractive.There is a feeling of aftertaste.
The taste of the four-horned deer and the colorful snails is really delicious, and it is unforgettable to eat!After all, a congenital master like Zhao Gang, and Zhao Cheng, the person in charge of the Yushi District, were all so close when they talked to Zhao Chaogang, or directly talked to Zhao Chaogang as an equal. It can be seen that Zhao Chaogang's identity It's definitely not as simple as it seems on the surface, Zhao Chaogang definitely has a more powerful identity, so many people have begun to pay attention to Zhao Chaogang.
The wedding banquet lasted until three o'clock in the afternoon. Before the wedding banquet ended, Zhao Chaogang, Li Liping, and Liu Jingjing returned to the new house under the congratulations of everyone, and were ready to welcome relatives and friends who would make trouble in the bridal chamber.
In China, when a man and a woman get married, having a bridal chamber is an indispensable procedure. The bridal chamber not only makes the family happy, but also the relatives and friends who make a bridal chamber are happy to take the opportunity to make a lot of noise and use various new tricks to make the bride and groom "sit in a sad city" We can't laugh or cry, so as to add some more festive atmosphere to this wedding.
The bridal chamber is "three days regardless of size". The bride, groom, and even the parents of the groom will often be teased by others or even younger generations, and those who are teased should not be angry, so as not to spoil the festive atmosphere of the newlyweds.
Of course, people who make trouble in the bridal chamber should not be too outrageous, and they should not make trouble for too long, so as not to affect the rest of the newlyweds.In particular, don't make rough booing and cause unpleasant things.
There are often reports that excessive bridal chamber troubles cause physical and mental harm to the bride and groom, and even cause brides to be injured and paralyzed.
The bridal chamber, also known as "teasing the daughter-in-law" and "noisy room", is carried out on the night of the wedding.
The method is to let the sister-in-law deliver the lamp first, and hug the students early.After giving off the lanterns, no matter the elders, peers, or juniors, they will gather in the new house to congratulate the newcomers. The play is abnormal and there are no taboos.
In the past, when the guests were making trouble in the room, they would put on ugly faces or move their hands. After talking and laughing, they would make a lot of fun, and it was enough to make the whole room laugh, which was of little significance.No matter how noisy it is, the master must not be angry, the more noisy the more, the joy can be doubled.
19 years later, when there was a bridal chamber, most of them asked the bride various difficult questions and asked her to answer them, which was civilized, polite, and full of wit.Some also tease the bride, and the bridesmaid often takes half of the bride's burden. To resist the teasing, she often throws candies to make trouble for the bride.
After the bridal chamber is over, the bride is asked to roll out noodles and make soup for descendants, thinking that they can grow old together and have a full house of descendants.The bride then feeds the livestock, which symbolizes taking over the housework, working together, and getting rich together.The bed was made by the elders, mostly male elders, and said while making the bed: "My husband makes the kang, and the children are two." Finally, the sister-in-law sent the urinal.
The wedding night in the bridal chamber, the long night of lighting the lamps, the bride opening the cabinet, the bride opening the cabinet, the groom trying on shoes, the husband and wife talking, eavesdropping outside the window against the wall, if you get a word or a half of it, it has been spread for many years.
Of course, these customs of making bridal chambers are not much left now. With the progress of the times, the way of making bridal chambers is also constantly improving.
The custom of making bridal chambers began in the pre-Qin and Han dynasties, and the wedding ceremony was simple and solemn.When Confucius described the marriage scene at that time in "Book of Rites? Zeng Ziwen", he said: "The married woman's family will keep candles for three days, and she will miss each other; the married family will not be happy for three days, thinking about her parents. Also." It reflects the simplicity and customs of pre-Qin weddings, without the scenes of clamor and fuss.
After entering the Han Dynasty, the social economy has developed by leaps and bounds. People are no longer satisfied with the old-fashioned and boring weddings, and no longer stick to the old saying of "three days without joy". .
Regarding the origin of the custom of making bridal chambers, there are two versions among the people in our country.
One said that it originated from exorcising evil spirits and avoiding disasters: according to legend, a long time ago, Ziwei star went down to earth in one day.On the road, he met a woman in sackcloth and filial piety, following a group of bridegrooms. He saw that the devil was waiting for an opportunity to do evil, so he followed the bridegroom's house, only to see that the woman had arrived first.And hid in the cave.
When the bride and groom were about to enter the bridal chamber after worshiping heaven and earth, Ziweixing guarded the door and refused to let them in, saying that there was a devil hiding inside.Everyone asked him to give advice on how to get rid of the devil.He suggested: "The devil is most afraid of crowds, and the crowd will be powerful. The devil will not dare to do evil."
So, the groom invited the guests to play and laugh in the bridal chamber, driving away the evil spirits with laughter; sure enough, at five o'clock, the evil spirits finally escaped.
It can be seen that the bridal chamber was cast with the color of exorcising evil and avoiding disaster from the very beginning.
Another point of view about the origin of the bridal chamber is that.The troubled house first appeared in the north, and at the beginning it was mainly the groom, which probably has something to do with the living habits of the northern peoples.They live by hunting and nomadic herding, which makes the men very tough and brave.Enduring beatings when newly married can prove that a man is a qualified man.
Some backward nations in the world use self-mutilation and abuse to show their qualifications as men, and even use hunted heads as tokens to court a mate. I am afraid that the same is true.Making bridal chambers preserved this primitive custom in ancient times.
The custom of making a bridal chamber to exorcise evil spirits exists in all parts of the north and south.Before the couple enters the bridal chamber.In the middle and lower reaches of the Yangtze River, the groom has to sleep in the bridal chamber the night before, and two girls are asked to hold red candles to illuminate the interior of the bridal chamber in advance;…
People in Tianjin invite the wind and dance troupe to play in the new house for auspiciousness.After the new couple enters the house, it is still very important to drive out the evil spirits in the house.
For example, in Dongzhang, after the groom enters the house, he should symbolically shoot an arrow at each of the four corners of the new house, or hold a single sword in his hand and slash at each corner, and sing: "One cuts the demon, two cuts the monster, and three cuts the devil." Bad head, four cuts and leave quickly, laughing to see Qilin send a child."
A more common custom is to have a built-in long-burning lamp in the new house, which is what the so-called "bridal chamber wedding night" means.Some scholars have researched that the custom of "listening to the room" is actually a protective measure to prevent ghosts from entering the bridal chamber.
There is also a beautiful legend about bridal chamber and honeymoon:
The history of civilization of the Chinese nation has been more than 5000 years ago. People still refer to marriage as "bridal chamber". Although human beings have transitioned from living in caves to today's high-rise buildings, the term "bridal chamber" has not changed so far.I have never seen anyone change "entering the bridal chamber" into "entering the building".
Legend has it that this was stipulated by our ancestor Xuanyuan Huangdi.The Yellow Emperor defeated Chiyou, quelled the war, established tribal alliances, stopped group marriages, and ended the barbaric era. The era of human civilization began from then on.
In the age of human beings who are accustomed to group marriages, how difficult it is to change to monogamy all of a sudden!This was probably also a great revolution 5000 years ago.For the tribal alliance that has just been unified, the group marriage system is extremely unfavorable to unity. Marriage snatching incidents often occur, not only men robbing women, but also women robbing men.
Among the tribes of the new alliance, fights and fights often occurred for snatching marriages.Over time, the contradictions will inevitably intensify, and the tribes may split again.The Yellow Emperor was often worried about this matter. He called his ministers Chang Xian, Da Hong, Feng Hou, Li Mu, Cang Jie and others to discuss how to stop group marriages and establish monogamy. None of them thought about it. Come up with a feasible solution.
One day, the Yellow Emperor accompanied a group of big giants to inspect the safety of the caves where the people lived, and suddenly found that the family lived in three caves. In order to prevent wild animals from invading, high walls were built around them with stones, leaving only one person to go in and out. At the door of the palace, this discovery immediately aroused the interest of the Yellow Emperor.
That night, he summoned all the ministers around him, and Huang Di said: "I have an idea to stop group marriages. Let everyone discuss it and see if it works." All the ministers told Huang Di to speak quickly.
The Yellow Emperor said: "Today we looked at the caves where the people live. I think the only way to stop group marriages is to gather the people of the tribe to congratulate and perform the ceremony when a man and a woman get married. , worship heaven and earth, worship parents, husband and wife worship each other.
Then, celebrate with wine, sing and dance, and announce that the two are officially married. Finally, the couple is sent to a cave prepared in advance, with high walls built around them, and only one door is left to enter and exit. Relatives give it away, it can last for three months or forty days, so that they can build a relationship between husband and wife in the cave, learn to cook and cook, and learn how to live.
From now on, all tribesmen will marry men and women who enter the bridal chamber.This is called a formal marriage, and it is no longer allowed to rob other people's men and women.In order to distinguish between married and unmarried, all married women must tie their disheveled hair in a knot.When people saw it, they knew that the woman was married and the man had no other plans.To do otherwise would be a violation of tribal law. "
After Huang Di explained this idea, he immediately got Chang Xian and Da Hong.With the support of Li Mu and others, the crowd suggested asking Cangjie to write a regulation.Announced to the public, this proposition was quickly supported by the people of various tribes.
People are scrambling to dig holes and build high walls for their children. Once the children get married, they will be sent to the bridal chamber after the ceremony is held.The bad habit of group marriage gradually disappeared.
However, the force of habit for thousands of years.It is the most terrifying force, deeply rooted, and it will not be completely changed overnight. There are also some people who are not used to the life of monogamous couples for a while.
It is said.There is a pair of hunting experts, the male is called Shi Peng, and the female is Mu Miao.The two were married by the parents of both parties.After the wedding.Both sent to the bridal chamber.
After living for less than ten days, Shi Teng began to feel that there was no point in being with only one woman all day. It would be better than a group marriage. You can accompany whoever you like, and you can find two or three a day.
Mu Miao also feels uncomfortable in the bridal chamber. It is really no fun to spend the whole day with a man. It is better to be free in a group marriage. You can fall in love with any man you like for a few days, and find another man after a few days if you don’t like it. free.
Because both of them had the idea of not wanting to live a monogamous life, one night, taking advantage of the silence of the night, they both jumped over the wall and ran away separately.
Both the stone pier and the wood seedlings fled into the big forest, and they couldn't find a place where there were people. The more anxious they became, the more lost their way.He didn't bring any hunting tools with him, for fear of being attacked by wild animals.After dawn, thirsty and hungry, the two came together again unknowingly.
In order to save their lives, the two had to depend on each other, picking wild fruits and mushrooms all day long to satisfy their hunger.Because of getting lost and unable to get out of the big forest for a while, I really don't know what to do?
In the end, they both realized that neither of them could live without the other right now.One day, the two were really thirsty, hungry and tired, and they both lay down under a big tree to rest. A swarm of bees buzzed and circled around him.
Unexpectedly, the bee got angry and stung the two of them until their noses were blue and their faces were swollen.Shi Peng found that the swarm of bees came out of the cracks in the trees, and took out the flint that he carried with him. He asked the seedlings to pick up dry wood, and quickly lit a big fire. , kept burning.
In an instant, the bee burned its wings and could no longer fly.Flames shot in through the gaps in the trees and burned the hives, and honey seeped out from the gaps in the trees.
At first, the two of them didn't know what was coming out, but they smelled the fragrance. They dipped a little of the stone porridge with their hands, put it in their mouths and licked it with their tongues. It was very sweet. He asked Mu Miao to taste it again. Poisonous, quickly picked up some bark, and filled all the honey that flowed out.
From this day on, the two spent a whole month picking mushrooms in the forest and dipping them in honey to satisfy their hunger. Fortunately, Yu Ze, a hunting expert under the Yellow Emperor, found out that the stone bar and wood Miao was rescued.
After more than a month of tossing in the big forest, the young couple was frightened and worried all day long, fearing that wild animals would come to attack them, neither of them wanted to separate, and no one could do without each other. The relationship between husband and wife became deeper and deeper, and only then did they truly understand love. taste.
After returning to the tribe, the stone pier and the wood seedling were never separated again, and the young couple established a happy family ever since.This is the origin of "entering the bridal chamber and honeymoon", which has been passed down to this day.
Of course, some places in rural areas also have quite vulgar ways of making bridal chambers, such as hiding frogs in the couple's quilt, and the couple will be frightened when they open the quilt.There are also firecrackers set off outside the new house in the middle of the night to scare people, making the couple afraid to sleep all night.
Even worse, in the middle of the night, the tiles on the roof of the new house were removed and water was poured in, making it impossible for the new couple to sleep.These are immoral and subject to public criticism.Of course, these behaviors are also very rare.
These strange bridal chamber tricks are also quite vulgar, and they are actually a retrogression of social civilization, and everyone should resolutely stop them.
In today's civilized society, this kind of prank should not appear again. The way of bridal chamber should be interesting, humorous and active.Newcomers and relatives and friends should respect each other, lest everyone break up unhappy.
However, relatively speaking, making a bridal chamber, whether it is a pure folk custom or a story or legend, it is also a part of Chinese culture after all, and it should be selectively preserved and carried forward.
Marriage, no matter who it is, is the joy and event of life after all.
Everyone is generally very busy and rarely have the opportunity to get together, so having a bridal chamber is a good opportunity to communicate and reminisce about old times.
As relatives and friends, it is difficult to get together over trivial matters, but relatives and friends generally do not neglect major marriage matters, so simply take this opportunity to have a good fight, as long as the fight is measured, educated, and family affection , The closer the distance, the bridal chamber is still very worthwhile.
Zhao Chaogang's relatives and friends didn't make things difficult for Zhao Chaogang's bridal chamber this time, and they all did so in moderation.
During the bridal chamber, Zhao Chaogang, Li Liping, and Liu Jingjing were only asked to perform some of Zhao Chaogang's special programs, such as singing, dancing, some magic tricks, and guessing riddles.
Of course, not everyone chooses such a simple program. For example, Cai Chanjuan and Liu Jingjing's girlfriends created a problem for Zhao Chaogang.
Compared with Cai Chanjuan and the others, Zhao Chaogang is 11 years older. Therefore, in the eyes of Cai Chanjuan and the others, Zhao Chaogang is an uncle-level existence. Cai Chanjuan, Liu Jingjing's girlfriends, wanted to fight for Liu Jingjing's injustice, so they racked their brains to come up with a difficult problem to embarrass Zhao Chaogang.
Cai Chanjuan and the others put a cloth over Zhao Chaogang's eyes, then mixed Li Liping and Liu Jingjing among seven or eight women, and asked Zhao Chaogang, who was blindfolded, to choose which two would be his bride. .
One mistake, Zhao Chaogang will bark a few times like a puppy, and Cai Chanjuan, in order to make it more difficult for Zhao Chaogang to choose, but also let those girls apply the perfume used by Li Liping and Liu Jingjing, wanting to slander Zhao Chaogang because of this .
Cai Chanjuan's calculations are indeed very good, but unfortunately, people's calculations are not as good as heaven's calculations. Zhao Chaogang's sense of smell is very sensitive, and there are some things that Cai Chanjuan doesn't understand, so Zhao Chaogang immediately looked for them in the crowd. Li Liping and Liu Jingjing were out, otherwise, it would be really difficult to pick out Li Liping and Liu Jingjing among the seven or eight women without using the divine sense.
So why was Zhao Chaogang able to find Li Liping and Liu Jingjing so easily?In fact, the reason here is very simple.Because, even if other women wear the perfume used by Li Liping and Liu Jingjing, the body fragrance of each woman is as different as the fingerprints on their hands.
It is indeed difficult for other people to distinguish the difference, but for a cultivator like Zhao Chaogang, this is a very simple matter, so Zhao Chaogang relied on the unique body fragrances of Li Liping and Liu Jingjing , found them very easily, and Cai Chanjuan on the side stomped her feet a few times in disappointment.
This most difficult problem was easily solved by Zhao Chaogang. Cai Chanjuan and the others suddenly lost their mind to play tricks on Zhao Chaogang. Afterwards, Cai Chanjuan and the others did not come up with any more problems to embarrass Zhao Chaogang, which made Zhao Chaogang escape again. After a catastrophe. )