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Chapter 1302 Open Your Heart

"You two ladies, Xiaosheng is here too!" Before walking into the new house, Zhao Chaogang's frivolous words reached Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's ears, and then there was the sound of the door opening, and Zhao Chaogang walked into the new house .

Obviously, today's wedding made Zhao Chaogang very excited, otherwise, how could Zhao Chaogang lose his composure like this.

"Really, even if no one is here in the new house now, but you should pay attention to what you say, your son is still here! I don't want my son to be spoiled by you. If my son I was taken away by you, let's see how I deal with you."

As soon as Zhao Chaogang entered the door, Li Liping began to talk about him. Li Liping attached great importance to the child in her stomach. Now Zhao Chaogang's status has dropped to the second place in her heart, and she is the number one. The child in the stomach.

Therefore, even if it was a little bit frivolous, Li Liping didn't want her son to hear it, so as not to have a bad influence on him.

"Ah?! Yes, yes, my son is still here, can you let him hear such frivolous words from his father, he should be beaten!"

After Zhao Chaogang finished speaking, he pretended to slap him on the face a few times. Obviously, Zhao Chaogang also attached great importance to the child in Li Liping's stomach, and wanted to give him the best environment.Zhao Chaogang stepped forward and held the hands of Li Liping and Liu Jingjing at the same time.Looking at them very sincerely, he made his first vow after marriage, a vow to Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's future life.This made Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's hearts extremely warm.

"Chao Gang, we are not wronged. We are very happy to be able to marry you. Although Jingjing and I shared your love at the same time, we didn't feel any wronged.

Because, Chao Gang, you are so kind to Jingjing and me.We are also very harmonious together, so we are not wronged in our hearts.We are actually very happy.Jingjing, do you think so? "

When Li Liping said these words, her eyes were full of sincerity, obviously these words were also Li Liping's sincere words.

Speak the truth.Can marry Zhao Chaogang.Li Liping was already very happy in her heart.Zhao Chaogang's current status as a cultivator puts a lot of pressure on Li Liping, which makes Li Liping feel ashamed. However, now that Zhao Chaogang married two women at once, this is very difficult for Li Liping. The pressure in my heart suddenly decreased a lot.Besides, Sister Pingping and I married Chao Gang and you, Chao Gang, you didn't force us, but we agreed to it, so, Chao Gang, don't apologize any more, say something very strange, we will marry you in our hearts The face is very willing, and our hearts are also very happy.Chao Gang, I love you! "

Liu Jingjing said very emotionally, and directly leaned her head on Zhao Chaogang's shoulder. Seeing Liu Jingjing's movements, Li Liping on the side also gently leaned her head on Zhao Chaogang's shoulder. above the shoulders.

At this time, Zhao Chaogang also stretched out his hands, hugged Li Liping and Liu Jingjing tightly in his arms, his eyes were full of tenderness, and Li Liping and Liu Jingjing looked at each other. Through the eyes to Li Liping and Liu Jingjing, the new house is instantly filled with warmth...

Maybe 10 minutes have passed, maybe half an hour, or just an hour. Anyway, Zhao Chaogang, Li Liping, and Liu Jingjing are still hugging each other. They don't want to break the warm atmosphere, but soon , A burst of hungry cries of "Gululu...!" interrupted the warm atmosphere. This was the sound of Li Liping's hungry stomach.

Li Liping is pregnant now, I believe everyone is very clear, pregnant women are very easy to be hungry, because there is a baby in her stomach, so, although Li Liping does not want to break this warm atmosphere, but, she My stomach began to protest, and the original warm atmosphere in the new house was broken.

"Hee hee...!" Liu Jingjing laughed softly after hearing the hunger cry from Li Liping's stomach. Of course, this laughter did not contain any teasing elements in it, this laughter was just very simple Just laughter.

"Chao Gang, I'm also hungry now. From the time of the wedding to now, I haven't actually had a good meal. I've been doing it for Sister Pingping, and you are blocking the wine. So, Chao Gang, you are still Go and get something to eat, Sister Pingping and I want to eat now. Especially Sister Pingping has a child in her belly, and she is so hungry, Sister Pingping, don’t you think so?”

Liu Jingjing smiled back, but she still stepped forward to rescue Li Liping in time. Since everyone will live in the same room with the same man as you from now on, taking care of each other is a matter of course. Liu Jingjing quickly adjusted her position.

"Hehe, I was really negligent, okay, I'm going to prepare some food now, can't my Pingping, Jingjing, and my son be hungry, Pingping, Jingjing, you are waiting here, I'll be right back." Zhao Chaogang went out in a hurry, he didn't want his wife and child to be hungry on the night of their wedding, it was too unlucky.

"Jingjing, thank you for saving me just now, otherwise it was a bit embarrassing just now!" Li Liping thanked Liu Jingjing just after Zhao Chaogang went out. I am very sorry.

"Sister Pingping, what are you talking about. We are a family now, so there is no need to be so polite. Besides, there is no embarrassment for a family. Sister Pingping, can you say such outrageous words again? gone."

"Hehe, it's my fault. I will never make the same mistake again. Jingjing, you are right. Starting today, we are a real family. From now on, we should work together to take good care of this family. If we get along with each other, if we are humble to each other and don’t treat each other as real family members, it will only cause problems in this family. Jingjing, from now on, let us work together to build this family! For the sake of this family Happiness, work together!"

"Yes, Sister Pingping. Jingjing knows, for the happiness of this family, Jingjing will do her best!"

Liu Jingjing nodded her head vigorously, her eyes were full of sincerity, obviously, what Liu Jingjing just said was her true words.

From this moment on, Li Liping and Liu Jingjing truly opened their hearts to each other.From now on, they are indeed working together to build the warmth of this home.Let this home be full of warmth from now on...

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"Well, it's really delicious. The food made by Zhao Chaogang is the best!" Liu Jingjing ate the food made by Zhao Chaogang, and kept praising the taste of the food made by Zhao Chaogang.

"Well, indeed, what Jingjing said is right, the food made by Chao Gang really tastes very good, um, delicious...!"

Half an hour ago, Liu Jingjing and Li Liping had opened their hearts to each other. Therefore, when Liu Jingjing and Li Liping were eating, they felt that today's food tasted particularly good, which made Zhao Chaogang on the other side very happy. He tasted the food in front of him suspiciously, but he found that the taste of the food was still the same, it hadn't changed much!

This made Zhao Chaogang very confused about Pingping and Jingjing's current reaction. In the end, after Zhao Chaogang couldn't figure it out, he could only act like this because Pingping and Jingjing were happy because they got married today.

It took a full 10 minutes for Li Liping and Liu Jingjing to stop the chopsticks in their hands. At this time, the food on the table was almost wiped out. It seemed that Li Liping and Liu Jingjing were really hungry, otherwise, where would there be any food? Such a good appetite.

Even Zhao Chaogang, who was not very hungry, couldn't help eating some after seeing Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's greedy eating appearances. It can be seen that good appetites can be contagious.

"Pingping, Jingjing, we will live together from today, maybe we will have such and such contradictions, after all, everyone's thinking is different, but what I want to tell you is that even if we There is a big contradiction in the process of getting along, and I hope that when the time comes, we can sit down calmly and resolve this contradiction.

Don't make loud noises or even fight because of this. In this case, the final result of our family will only be dilapidated.

I am here to solemnly promise you that when dealing with family affairs in the future, I will definitely handle issues on the basis of fairness and justice, and will never favor anyone.

In doing this, I actually hope that the home can be filled with warmth. Home is the harbor of our souls, so we need to do our best to maintain this harbor of souls.Pingping, Jingjing, what do you think? "

After clearing away the dishes on the dining table, Zhao Chaogang directly pulled Li Liping, Liu Jingjing sat down, and Kaicheng began to speak publicly.

In the future, the three of them will live together under the same roof. Pingping and Jingjing each have different ideas. After a long time, there will definitely be conflicts between Pingping and Jingjing. , quarrels or something is inevitable.

So, now Zhao Chaogang brought up this topic directly, and the two sides have an open and public discussion with each other. In this way, it will be better for everyone's life together in the future.Zhao Chaogang did this for the good of the family.

It's a pity that Zhao Chaogang's actions were in vain, because Li Liping and Liu Jingjing had already opened their hearts to each other.

"Hee hee..., Chao Gang, don't worry, sister Pingping and I have already cleared each other up, and we will make the greatest efforts together for the warmth of this family, and we will build this family well, Chao Gang. We have that confidence!"

"Well, Chao Gang, don't worry. From now on, you will leave the affairs of the family to me and Jingjing. We will manage this family well, and we will not let Chao Gang down or embarrass you!"

Li Liping stretched out her hands, grabbed Zhao Chaogang's right hand, and shook it very hard.To show that what they said just now, they were definitely not joking.

"Hehe. If that's the case, I'm relieved!" Zhao Chaogang showed a happy smile on his face, and then he directly took Li Liping and Liu Jingjing into his arms, and said very gently: "Pingping, Jingjing, you guys Really my baby, I love you!"  …

"Chao Gang, I love you too...!"

"Chao Gang, I love you too...!"

Li Liping and Liu Jingjing answered in unison, the new house was once again filled with the warmth of love...!

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The time soon came to the third day, at this time, it was time to go back, Zhao Chaogang.Li Liping and Liu Jingjing got up early in the morning and started preparing gifts for their return home.

Today's back door.Zhao Chaogang went to Li Liping's house with Li Liping first, and then went to Liu Jingjing's house with Liu Jingjing. Li Liping was the eldest sister, so when returning home, Zhao Chaogang went to Li Liping's house first.

Regarding Zhao Chaogang's arrangement, Liu Jingjing didn't say anything, she was very upright about her position, since she is now a younger sister, she must abide by some things that younger sisters should obey.

On the night of their wedding, since she and Sister Pingping had opened their hearts to each other, there were some sacrifices that had to be made.For this family, for Chao Gang, Liu Jingjing made such a sacrifice willingly!

Of course, Liu Jingjing's sacrifice was not in vain. After seeing Liu Jingjing's humility and understanding, Li Liping directly discussed with Zhao Chaogang, and let Zhao Chaogang spend the night at Liu Jingjing's house tonight to make up for Liu Jingjing. The 'sacrifice'.

This is the so-called income, you have to pay!

Huimen, also known as Guining, is a traditional wedding custom of the Han nationality.It refers to the first time a woman returns to her natal family to visit relatives after she gets married.The newlyweds return to their parents-in-law's home after the third day of their marriage, and for the bride, it is to return to her mother's home after becoming a married woman for the first time.

According to the folk customs of the Han nationality, after a woman gets married, the first time she returns to her natal family to visit relatives is called Huimen, and those who walk with her son-in-law are called double Huimen.

Yuan Wuming's "Fighting Wisdom across the River", the second chapter: "When I return to the door against the moon, I will see my mother, and I will have something to say." Greetings from Mother Jia."

Huimen is also called "Guining", which means "returning to one's mother's home".Marriage customs of the Han nationality.Returning home is also the first time for newlyweds to return to their natal family to visit their relatives. It is an essential etiquette for the couple to pay homage to the woman's parents.

At this time, when the groom sees his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he should change his name to father and mother, and make the official beginning and end of the whole wedding, that is, let the bride's parents see the meaning of a happy marriage between the two.

The Yue family will also hold a banquet to entertain the new son-in-law, and some relatives of the woman's side will even quarrel with the son-in-law.Of course, at this time, the new son-in-law still has to give his parents-in-law "return gift" and "return money", and bring different gifts according to different places.

Some bring a rooster, which means "good luck".Some brought some meat, eggs, noodles, etc. to the woman's house and had to stay for a few days before returning.

It is more common to offer oranges, apples, bananas, wine, etc. The style is not fixed, but it must not be a single gift at the door, it must be an even number, which means that the husband and wife will form a pair and have a good relationship for a hundred years, and an odd number is unlucky.

After three, six, seven, nine, ten days or the full moon after marriage, the son-in-law will bring gifts and return to her natal home with the bride to pay respects to the wife's parents and relatives.The ceremony of becoming a son-in-law, which begins with welcoming in person, is now completed, which means returning home to visit parents after marriage.

Later generations have different names in various places. The Song Dynasty called it "Baimen", the Qing Dynasty called it "Shuanghuimen" in the north, and the south called it "Huaiqin", some areas in Hebei called it "Huangguye", and Hangzhou called it "Huilang".

In modern times, it is usually on the third day after marriage, also known as "Three Dynasties Huimen".The newlyweds either return on the same day, or stay for a few days. If they stay, they will not stay in the same room.

When returning home, the daughter and son-in-law go back to the daughter's house to recognize the family and visit relatives.The time of returning home varies from place to place. In ancient times, it was the third, sixth or seventh, eighth, or ninth day of marriage, and there were also full moon visits.The custom of returning to the door existed in the Spring and Autumn Period, and descendants have followed it to this day.

Because the "Huimen" is a newlyweds who return together, it is called "Shuanghuimen", which means auspicious pairing.

When returning home, the old custom stipulates that the bride walks in front, and when returning to the man’s house, the groom walks in front, because this is the first time for a daughter to go back to her mother’s house after she gets married, and some people call it “the first trip”.

After the "double back door", it is generally not allowed to spend the night at the Yue's house, and must return to the man's house on the same day, because in the old days there was a custom of not vacating the house within one month after the newlyweds.

According to traditional wedding customs, after three days of marriage, the bride and the groom will return to her natal home, also known as "returning to the door", which is an essential etiquette.

The elderly of the bride's family attach great importance to returning home in three days, so the groom must be prepared in advance both ideologically and in terms of gifts, and strive to leave a pleasant impression on his father-in-law and mother-in-law.

Buy gifts that the elderly of the bride's family like. There are generally four gifts, such as tobacco, alcohol, sugar, health care products, etc.

Returning home is the last ceremony of marriage. A daughter does not forget the gift of parental upbringing, and a son-in-law thanks his parents-in-law and the newlyweds for their love and beauty. Generally, the daughter-in-law’s family hosts a banquet to entertain the new son-in-law, accompanied by the elders of the clan. drink.The daughter-in-law's house holds a large banquet to entertain the new son-in-law. This is the door-to-door banquet.

Of course, there are some taboos that need to be paid attention to when returning home: if the groom and the bride return to their natal home together, then they also have different taboos when staying in their natal home.Both Han and Manchu have the custom of avoiding intercourse when newlyweds go back to their natal homes.

The Manchu allowed the uncle to live in Xikang, and all other guests were not allowed to live in Xikang, but girls and uncles were not allowed to live together.It is said that newlyweds sharing the same room with their natal family will make the natal family decline.This is also caused by the concept that sexual behavior is unclean and blasphemous.

Han folks often believe that in matters between men and women, the woman always suffers.Out of this consideration, the female family always feels a little depressed psychologically.Besides, the natal family and the in-law's family do not belong to the same blood, so how can they provide a place for the in-law's family to pass on the family in the natal house?If she really conceived in her natal family, wouldn't she bring the "personality" and "wealth" of her natal family to her in-law's house?The natal family will definitely decline because of this.

Therefore, it is absolutely taboo for young couples to have sex in their natal family. This is the ideology under this custom.

However, even among the Han people, there are many places where it is not taboo for newlyweds to share the same bed in their natal home.Sometimes, these two completely different customs coexist in the same county, for example, in Lin County, Henan, these two customs coexist.

Significance of Huimen custom: According to the wedding customs of our country, after three days of marriage, the bride and groom will return to her natal home together, also known as "Huimen", which is an essential etiquette.

The elderly of the bride's family attach great importance to returning home in three days, so the groom must be prepared in advance both ideologically and in terms of gifts, and strive to leave a pleasant impression on his father-in-law and mother-in-law.

Prepare the gifts in advance, and buy gifts that the bride's family and the elderly like. There are usually four gifts.The return door usually starts at nine or ten o'clock in the morning.The bride and groom should carefully groom and dress up as if attending a wedding, and maintain the beautiful and handsome image at the wedding.

When returning to their natal homes, the bride and groom must greet the elderly first.At this time, the groom should change his words and call his parents-in-law father and mother just like the bride. He should call his parents-in-law father and mother in a natural and friendly way, and he should also show kindness, enthusiasm, and courtesy when dealing with relatives, friends and neighbors. .

During the meal, the bride should accompany the groom and toast to her parents, relatives, friends and neighbors one by one, thanking everyone for their blessings on their new marriage.After dinner, don't rush home. You should chat with your parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then leave and go home.And you should take the initiative to invite two old people and brothers and sisters to your home as guests, and you can also invite relatives, friends and neighbors.

Generally speaking, returning to the door is an indispensable procedure for us Chinese when we get married, and it is also a good inheritance of our own marriage for us Chinese. This kind of inheritance is definitely worth inheriting and carrying forward. go!

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